3 Reasons New Year’s Resolutions
Don’t Work and What You Should Do Instead
if You Want to Succeed in 2012
By B.C. Fleming
Author and Speaker
In the military we are results oriented, period! And
there is no excuse for not producing results. Nobody wants to be known
as "that guy" who can't be counted on. I know
very few, if any, successful people who take New Year’s resolutions seriously (and
I’m blessed to know quite a few, actually). A great number of people who are
successful at what they do are successful because they are results-focused and
results-oriented, they don’t make excuses for failure, they are go-getters and stubborn
in their commitment to not give up and stick with it and they don’t stake the
success of their careers or personal lives on short-lived, “feel-good”
marketing gimmicks that reappear once a year every January (not to sound harsh,
but let’s be honest).
1. New Year’s
resolutions are meant to be broken. They don’t work because nobody keeps them.
People make their resolutions with the intention of receiving some sort of
pleasure or reward and expect it to happen almost instantaneously. When it
doesn’t come fast enough they give up. But I can tell you from personal
experience that the desire to avoid imminent pain or discomfort will move more
people in a given direction faster than any other force, even the promise of
pleasure or reward. Most people, when it comes to their resolutions, focus only
on what they want to happen. But you
will take more consistent action when you have the daunting thoughts of the
things you don’t want to happen in
the forefront of your mind accompanying those things you do want.
2. New Year’s resolutions do more damage
than good because people don’t know how to properly set and actually
achieve goals. Most people are half-hearted in their commitments to their New
Year’s resolutions because they want the result without the work. Then they
feel like failures when they choose to give up in a month or two because
they’ve decided that what they thought they wanted isn’t worth the effort.
Again, they beat themselves down mentally and feel like failures because they
gave up and it’s back to square one.
3. People despise
change. People instinctively try to avoid change instead of embracing
it. People like their comfort zones and New Year’s resolutions require people to
get out of those comfort zones and to stay out of them. Pursuing and reaching a
New Year’s resolution typically involves a moderate to major change in a
person’s daily lifestyle. Doing something different takes time to develop into
a habit—roughly 3 weeks according to some experts. Drastic, sudden changes in
personal lifestyle typically won’t last for any extended period of time because
most people simply don’t want whatever it is they said they wanted badly
enough.
B.C. FLEMING’S SOLUTION TO
YOUR ANTI-NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION:
1. Make a list of 3
things you absolutely DO NOT want
to have happen in your life this year (in the “resolution areas” as I call them—areas
you’re looking to improve in). Underneath that list of things you don’t want to happen, make a sub-list of
3 simple, practical things you are going to do every single day in order to
avoid having those things happen. At the end of the paper, write one short,
simple phrase stating your ultimate goal or desire in doing these things—and be
specific (seeing your end result written down is KEY)—and then write down a
specific date as a deadline.
2. Make 3-5 copies
of this short, simple list.
3. Tape these on your mirror, next to your toilet, in your car, on
your refrigerator, on the backside of your front door—anywhere you will be
forced to run into them and look at them on a daily basis. Then do the activities listed which will ultimately lead you to your goal. Success
here is in keeping it simple and doable.
4. Stay consistent!
Truth is, if you want something badly enough and are willing to do whatever it
takes and stick with it, you’ll get it.
Remember… At the end
of the day you have nobody to blame
and your success is your own fault!
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